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Become Proactive

Become Proactive

The following are 10 tips on ways to become proactive instead of reactive to situations:

If you feel angry and upset with someone

Before you say or do something you might later regret, take a deep breath and count slowly to ten. In most circumstances, by the time you reach ten, you would have figured out a better way of communicating the issue, so that you can reduce, instead of escalate the problem. If you’re still upset after counting to ten, take a time out if possible, and revisit the issue after you calm down.

When you feel adversely about someone’s behavior towards you

Avoid jumping to a negative conclusion right away. Instead, come up with multiple ways of viewing the situation before reacting. For example, I may be tempted to think my friend didn’t return my call because she’s ignoring me, or I can consider the possibility that she’s been very busy. When we avoid personalizing other people’s behaviors, we can view their expressions more objectively, and reduce the possibility of misunderstanding.

If you’re dealing with a difficult individual

try to put yourself in the challenging person’s shoes, even for just a moment, and complete the sentence: “It must not be easy…” For example:“My child is being so resistant. It must not be easy to deal with his school and social pressures…”“My supervisor is really demanding. It must not be easy to have such high expectations placed on her performance by upper-management…”To be sure, empathetic statements do not excuse unacceptable behavior. The point is to remind yourself that people do what they do because of their own issues. As long as we’re being reasonable and considerate, difficult behaviors from others say a lot more about them than they do about us.

When someone’s pressuring you

To make a decision you’re not sure about, simply buy time and say: “I’ll think about it.” This phrase can instantly lift the psychological pressure, and put you in greater control of the situation. Whether it’s an acquaintance asking for a favor, a romantic interest pursuing a date, or intense sales pressure, take the time you need to evaluate the pros and cons of the situation, and consider whether you want to negotiate a different arrangement, or if you’re better off by saying “no.”

If you feel nervous and anxious

Put cold water on your face, which triggers the mammalian diving reflex and immediately slows the heart rate between ten to twenty-five percent. It’s also helpful to get fresh air and take deep breaths from the diaphragm.

When you feel under stress

Put cold water on your face, which triggers the mammalian diving reflex and immediately slows the heart rate between ten to twenty-five percent. It’s also helpful to get fresh air and take deep breaths from the diaphragm.

If you feel fearful or discouraged

Try intense aerobic exercises. Energize yourself. The way we use our body affects greatly how we feel. As the saying goes – motion dictates emotion. As you experience the vitality of your body, your confidence will also grow.

When you find yourself obsessing

In a way you know it’s not good for you, whether it’s oversensitivity, unnecessary anxiety, or unhealthy rumination, use a technique developed by psychologist Eric Maisel and say to yourself: “I’m not tripping over this!” Distract yourself with constructive activities to avoid being stuck. Ask for feedback from trusted peers and credible advisors to maintain objectivity.

If you feel overwhelmed, confused, or uninspired

Go into nature and surround yourself in colors of green and blue, which have a calming effect. Find a panoramic view and look out into the distance. Walk. Take deep breaths. Immerse yourself in nature’s splendor. Come back with a fresh perspective and new inspiration.

When you go through setbacks and failures

ask: “What is the lesson here?” “How can I learn from this experience?” “What is most important now?” and “If I think outside the box, what are some better answers?” The higher the quality of questions we ask, the better the quality of answers we will receive. Ask constructive questions based on learning and priorities, and we can gain the proper perspective to help us tackle the situation at hand.

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